We are a Private, Upscale

Polyamory & Kink
Lifestyle Community

Welcome to HandPicked—an exclusive members-only social club for mature, open-minded individuals exploring ethical non-monogamy, sensuality, and connection. HandPicked is an inclusive community who welcomes ALL. We have a zero-tolerance policy for racism/homophobia/sexism/slut shaming/body shaming/prejudice in any form. Our events and online network provide a safe, stylish, and judgment-free environment for self-expression and exploration.

What We Offer

An intentionally curated experience for those seeking more than just parties. HandPicked is about meaningful encounters, real conversations, and authentic connections—whether romantic, platonic, or somewhere in between. Every member is screened, every event is elevated.

A New Era of Intimacy, Connection & Community

We create safe spaces, online and in-person, where identity, consent, and pleasure take center stage.

Private Events Hosted

Vetted Community Leaders

Active Chapters in the U.S.

Over Connections Made

What Our Members Say

“There are many variations of passages of Lorem Ipsum available, but the majority have suffered alteration by injected humour.”

C. Franklin

- Chicago -

“A sanctuary for exploring kink and connection with like-minded, professional people.”

Anonymous Member

- Chicago -

“From the application process to the events, everything feels safe, polished, and empowering.”

N. Miller

- Miami -, Member since 2022

The Veil Lifts for the Worthy

HandPicked is not for everyone — and that’s the point. We welcome individuals who value authenticity, privacy, and deeper connection.